I'm really enjoying the book Overcoming Overeating by Lisa Monroe. In the last few chapters I read she talks about being a food addict. When we overlook the consequences of over eating and do it anyway, as not be able to control ourselves, we have the signs of being a food addict. In the last episode we talked about WHY we are eating too much and how our food makes us HIGH. Today we look at what I call the crazy cycle of food.
We start off making a mistake. We eat food. Then we step on the scale and see the consequences. Then we feel guilty. This is dealing with the fact that we made a mistake. Shames is different. This is where were start to think We are a mistake. If we continue with this negative momentum, we will end up hating ourselves. When we hate ourselves we generally don't care about anything and we may feel we don't deserve happiness, and how do we make ourselves feel better? You guessed it, we go back to step one and repeat.
In the book she points out something that we have spoken about in the past. This is that most of us who are overweight do not have a food problem. Food is being used to fill a hole that exists due to something else. Food is the symptom – not the solution.
This means that sometimes to move forward, we have to go backward and take a long look at ourselves to understand what makes us tick. Peter Gabriel has a great song called “Digging in the Dirt” that was written around the time of his divorce. If you think about a compost pile it is made up of garbage. For the compost pile to create fertilizer, you need to overturn the dirt. You need to work the dirt for it to be productive. Sometimes we are the same, we need to dig in the dirt so we can understand where we came from, and then see where we need to go.
The hard part is we may be in “self hatred” mode, and doing the right things (exercising, eating the right things) requires faith in the system, and faith in the process. In the end you will be sacrificing for the FUTURE YOU, and RIGHT NOW, you don't put a lot of value in the future you. However, your future you will thank you IMMENSELY for the actions you take today. If you can't do it for you, do it for future you.
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