I recently heard a quote. When I researched the quote via Google, it appears that the quote came from a guy named Merlin Mann. Here is the quote:
“You eventually learn that true priorities are like arms; if you think you have more than a couple, you’re either lying or crazy.”
I got married yesterday. My wedding, was a huge priority. My marriage continues to be a priority in my life. Obviously we all have priorities be it family, work, God, and all the other things that unexpectedly happen as we make our ways through life.
Previous to getting married I graduate from college (for the second time). As I look at that statement from Mann, I can agree. As I tried to keep exercise and fitness as a priority as I worked on finals, and then wedding plans (which required working more hours to pay for the wedding) I have to admit that fitness was not a true priority. Sure I still walked around the block. But at the end of the day instead of having 10,000 steps on my pedometer I was showing 4,000 more often. My fitness was an after thought – not a priority.
While I could use my graduation and wedding as reasons, they were excuses. I still watched the occasional television show. And I was starting to eat the “occasional” happy meal more frequently. I've said it before, but when you do the wrong they, you are practicing doing the wrong thing, and the more you do it, the better you get at doing the wrong thing. I understand that being perfect is impossible, but you need to hold your ground and keep your standards high. Don't give up, and don't stop trying.
I am now in a new position. My graduation is behind me, as is my wedding. My honeymoon starts tomorrow, and we've picked a lovely out door type of location with hiking and biking in mind (among other things). They key point is now that I WILL have more free time in the future, what will I fill it with? I will fill it in with the aerobic exercises that I used to do first thing in the morning. I will replace working on customers website it with logging into sparkpeople.com and staying focused on fitness. I will take the money I was saving for the wedding, and put it back into my gym membership that I temporarily disrupted.
The big key is when you “lose” a priority, realize the opportunity you have in front of you. So many of us want to fill this time with “Doing nothing.” Yes relaxing is very important. We need to give our body time to rebuild itself. But sitting in front of the television watching bad entertainment is not helpful relaxation.
So when you find yourself with “free time” that you didn't have before, embrace that time to make yourself the priority. You are worth it, and your body, and your family will thank you in the long run.
Shaping Positive Habits
I've said it in the past, but when you do the right or wrong thing you are practicing doing the right/wrong thing. While we can't be perfect, we do need to pay attention when we do the wrong things and do all we can to avoid doing them again. I'm reading the book “Financial Peace Revisted” by Dave Ramsey (a great book for a down economy). In the book he talks about an article from an anonymous author:
I am your constant companion.
I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am completely at your command.
Half of the things you do you might as well turn over to me and I will do them – quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed – you must be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of great people,
and alas, of all failures as well.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine though
I work with the precision of a machine
plus the intelligence of a person.
You may run me for profit or run me for ruin –
it makes no difference to me.
Take me, train me, be firm with me, and
I will place the world at your feet.
Be easy with me and I will destroy you.
Who am I?
I am Habit.
Start developing good habits today.